Aquarius; up close and personal

aquariusI haven’t posted an “up close and personal” astrological post in a while, and since I have so many Aquarian friends AND am married to an Aquarian, that seemed my next obvious pick.

This air sign, infamous in its ability to detach, has wonderful, possibly unknown, partnership qualities as well. Once committed, Aquarian’s are all in for the long-haul. However the tricky part, is getting them to that commitment.  Yes, they are independent and can be rebellious, but that doesn’t mean they don’t desire being in close personal relationships.  They just need your support in re-assuring them their space is still there, even though they are committed to you.

I tease my husband and call him a closet Virgo, I do that because of the appreciation Aquarian’s have for order and organization. Watching the Aquarian operate in their own unruliness or disarray, may surprise you to know that you’re orderliness may be exactly what your Aquarian needs.  Sometimes people project energy outward, so that they will draw others into their lives who are opposite, in this case, someone who is organized, is what your Aquarian may need most to feel comfortable in their own energy. Just don’t even try to go overboard with the structure or systematic approach, that may send them running for the hills, hahaha. 

I’ve shared a joke with some of you, that teases about the Aquarian’s tube of toothpaste in the bathroom. If you ask the Aquarian where the cap is for the toothpaste they may look at you and ask “this came with a cap”. All joking aside, Aquarian’s can be identified as the one who is most content when attempting to save the world.  They see things on a grander scale than most and have a yearning desire to do all they can to preserve the earth, they are our “earth-keepers”.

They recycle, they donate, they organize fundraisers and events for charity.

Where we may see the individual books on a shelf, they see the library, and their thoughts go to “how can we improve the space so it is most efficient for all”. They notice the homeless person, just as you and I do, however, their mind goes to “how can we put an end to homelessness all together”.  They understand the need for evolution on a global level and have a yearning to do more. Sometimes to the point that it truly is “painful” to them to feel they are not doing all they can.

Asking an Aquarian to multi-think, unlike multi-task is a challenge.  I mean no disrespect to these air signs, after all, the thought process is their default, however, throwing too many things to think about at once, is the surest way to elicit a “dear in the headlights” look from them! They “think” to the beat of their own drum and therefore need things to make sense to them in the way that they process information. When information is presented to them in a way, other than how they understand it, it can become overwhelming.  They think “outside the box”, but it takes focused effort when they’re asked to think “inside the box”, and this may cause confusion for an Aquarian.

Oprah Winfrey, Michael Jordan, Abraham Lincoln and Ellen DeGeneres are just a few of the famous faces that represent the Aquarian nature of forward thinking and seeing how change can bring about evolvement on a larger scale. We need our Aquarian’s to be those people that see the bigger picture, that navigate us to a collectively better place, and to be the humanitarians that stand up for us all! 

 

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Poverty or Prosperity

monday-piece“Yeah right”, you may be thinking. “How am I supposed to think prosperity when my bank account is in a negative state, or when I don’t have enough money to pay my bills, or too many unexpected and costly things are coming at me.”

This is precisely the time when this type of thinking is needed most.

When someone is in a position of having enough money, they’re not focusing on if they have enough or not, they’re not worrying and putting all their thoughts on how much money they DON’T have. Naturally they’re not thinking like that because they DO have enough, but more importantly is the energy and attention they’re NOT giving to what they DON’T have. People with plenty of money, see something they like and they buy it, they desire going out to dinner or a movie or show and they go. They just do it, without the negative and fearful thoughts, attention and energy fueling it.

How is all of this helping you if you’re not the person with copious amounts of money?  It’s NOT helping you, because naturally and unconsciously your focus is on what you DON’T have and this blocks you from receiving exactly what you DO want, need or desire.

I know first hand how it feels to have been or be at poverty level and the last thing I thought about doing was pretend like I had enough money, or any money for that fact.  You may even become annoyed reading this and feeling like this is impossible given your current circumstances, I understand your reality is that the money just isn’t there.  You may be thinking no matter how hard you concentrate on more money showing up”magically” in your bank account, it’s just not going to happen! But, is doubting it, worrying about, stressing yourself out to the point that you may become ill over it, helping you? Is all that negative thinking helping you to feel better?

When you focus on not having money vs having money, which feels better?  images_content_thinking-about-money

I’m encouraging you to do what feels better.  Yes, I’m suggesting that you live in denial temporarily, and if you wonder why you would do that, I ask you, is the other way of thinking helping?  Do you feel good when you make decisions based on the thoughts of “lack” instead of “prosperity”? Imagine how you would feel if you had unlimited amounts of money, pretty great right?  Well, try it then, feel like you have more than enough, is it going to hurt you or anyone else by changing those thoughts that help you feel better? Not likely.

I’m certainly not recommending you go out and spend money that isn’t actually there, I’m suggesting that by behaving and feeling like the money is there, you’ll not only feel better, you’ll free up space to allow the money to come.

It may not happen overnight…or, it may…who can say for sure?

When you find yourself thinking in terms of what you don’t have, when you look at something you wish you could buy and your thoughts and feelings go automatically to “I can’t or I don’t have”, catch yourself and think, “I could, and I will when I’m ready”.

Do this without expectations, having an expectation puts an almost impossible demand on something to happen within a certain time frame, and if it doesn’t happen you’ll quickly go back to negative thinking, and even worse, you’ll be doing so unconsciously, just to validate that you really DON’T  have enough!

So, go out there today and believe you do have ample amounts of money, (or any area of your life that your thinking needs an update)  “think prosperity, not poverty”, and if that feels better, then keep it up.  It’s ok to find yourself falling back into the old patterns of negative fears and thoughts, just turn it around as quickly as possible, and move forward again, ready to recieve the abundance of life!   emmanuel-dagher-abundance-money-quotes

 

 

 

 

 

calendar photo by Louise Hay

Are You Sabotaging Your Own Success?

Not everyone is accustomed to being successful, and while it’s true that most of us are afraid of failure, we also fear success because we don’t know how to live successfully.  These may not be tools we acquired and therefore it frightens us.  What we know is how to struggle, how to need or want, we don’t know how to be comfortable living with success.

We have mastered living scarcely or paycheck to paycheck, it’s familiar to us and although we don’t like it, we are most comfortable with what is familiar. We stay in unhealthy relationships because as negative or harmful as they are, it is what we know and feels familiar, therefore it is what we are “comfortable” with.  

It’s time to stop accepting what is comfortable, to stop holding ourselves back or finding ways to self sabotage ourselves because we convince ourselves stepping out of our comfort zone is even more frightening.   This contributes to staying right where we are and feeling like a failure for it. sign-success-failure-1055756

We think we are doing the best we can and in some ways we are, but if we are not valuing and appreciating ourselves, if we are not being our “biggest fan”, then we are not doing the best we can.

Why is believing in ourselves so challenging? This lack of self worth or low self esteem shows up in many ways, such as not asking for more money because we don’t feel worth it. We fool ourselves with all sorts of excuses like they can’t afford to pay me more, the company or business isn’t doing well, and we even think, maybe I’m being greedy. Our ego wants us to believe these lies, but in truth,we are worth it, we are talented and good enough.  Yes, in some cases the company you work for may not have the finances available to pay you more, or the clients you are servicing may truly not have the money to pay more, in these circumstances it’s important for you to at least recognize you are worthy of making more money and being successful, and that success is on it’s way. That you are on your way to success.key-to-success-1307591.jpg

Being successful means different things to everyone.  It may be about money, it may be about being in the best relationship possible, it may be about becoming famous.  We have a bar that was set long ago, as children, and our inner children are frightened and influencing us into not raising that bar.  

Those limitations that we impose upon ourselves came as a result of not receiving the recognition we required as children in order to grow up confident.

As it states here in the following article:

“Self esteem is shaped not only by the child’s own perceptions and expectations, but by the perceptions and expectations of significant people in his/her life – how he/she is thought of and treated by parents, teachers and friends.”

https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/gradeschool/Pages/Helping-Your-Child-Develop-A-Healthy-Sense-of-Self-Esteem.aspx

This article goes on to list these characteristics needed to develop or acquire a healthy self esteem; A sense of security, belonging and purpose. A sense of personal competence and pride, trust, responsibility and contribution. A sense of making real choices and decisions, a sense of self discipline and control, a sense of encouragement, support, and reward. A sense of making mistakes and failure, and a sense of family self esteem.

This is not meant to place the blame on our parents, teachers, or other significant people who were a part of our childhood, it’s meant to be a guiding tool as to how we created or accepted a life of not being as successful as we desire.

Most of us grew up lacking any number of the above, but now we have the power to change it!

First, you must become aware of what is holding you back by looking at that list again and determining what resonates with you the most?  What triggers an emotional reaction or a memory that feels uncomfortable? If you become upset with these memories, remind yourself that you are alright, that these are just memories, and even though our bodies cannot discern between being a memory and  re-living it again, we are able to remind ourselves that it’s only a thought, a memory, and in turn we can release it.  Take a deep breath before moving on.

Now that you’ve brought some feelings up to the surface, and maybe thought of things you hadn’t thought of for a long time, you might be asking yourself, why do I want to focus on things that don’t feel good, things that weren’t right in my life.  You aren’t going to focus on these things, you are only becoming aware of them and by doing so, you have already begun the healing step towards creating a more successful life.

This is where it gets a little deeper, if you cannot do the following exercise now, meaning you do not have the time or a quiet space to spend a few minutes, save this and at a later time create space where you can connect with those emotions again.

Take a couple of quiet moments, breathing easily and relaxing. Connect again with the list above, acknowledging that perhaps you did not have a sense of security growing up, maybe you weren’t allowed or did not learn how to make real choices and decisions for yourself, maybe you were expected to make decisions that should not have been put on you.  Possibly you did not receive the encouragement and support that you needed in order to believe in yourself or to become confident and proud.

Whatever it is that you feel was lacking, unhealthy or distorted as you grew into adulthood, can now be nurtured and healed!

Give yourselves credit for wherever you are in life at this moment and realize that moving forward, you are already in a better place.  All the thoughts and feeling we unconsciously dismiss, stuff down or ignore will continue to surface or fester into something worse. That younger, wounded, “lacking” version of you will heavily influence who you are as an adult, how you feel and treat yourself and others and affect every relationship you are in.

Healing your “inner child” may require much more in depth processing than what you’re practicing today, but you are already closer to leading a healthier, successful life than you were yesterday.pass-by-1441532.jpg

We long to be the best versions of ourselves possible and that prompts us to treat ourselves with extreme love, support and care.  It’s imperative to give to ourselves all that we may have or have not received growing up and more.  

There are many fortunate adults who experienced a healthy, happy and functional upbringing  and may still find themselves in a “less than successful” place in life as adults.  This is because they have not fully stepped in to pick up where their parents left off by nurturing themselves, and accepting and supporting themselves completely. In other words, parenting themselves in the abundant and healthy manner in which their parents did.

Regardless of what you grew up with, a healthy support system or not,  in order to live successfully, and it’s important to remember, success comes in many forms, you must be your biggest fan, your own cheerleader, you must believe in yourself and be passionate about what you want out of life.

Now you have a better understanding of why you are more comfortable living a life that doesn’t feel supported, or isn’t as fulfilled as you’d like. You can see that it’s because that is what you are familiar with, and familiarity actually gives us a false sense of safety.

Everyone is fearful of leaving a space that provides them with safety, which in turn, is sending out a lot of energy through thought, of not wanting to leave a safe place.  I’ll explain that again, contemplating stepping out of your comfort zone doesn’t feel safe, so by focusing on the that fear, you are in turn mistaking opportunities for something that are possibly “unsafe” or risky. Sending all that energy towards not leaving that safe space will create obstacles again and again to keep you from moving forward. These obstacles come in many forms, they might be financial, emotional, actual-such as a job loss, failed relationships and may escalate to physical in the form of pain and dis-ease.

We see the chaos around us yet do not recognize our unconscious need to have that chaos so that we are kept in our unhealthy “safe” space.

Thankfully there are many ways to acquire the tools for living a capable, well rounded, happy and successful life and by doing the exercises you did today, you are already shifting that energy into being comfortable stepping outside your comfort zone and learning how it feels to live a successful life.

Recap:

~Allow the feelings to surface and acknowledge where they came from – without blame or resentment.

~Know that you can give yourself what you need right now through self encouragement, self discipline, and learning to make healthy and responsible decisions.  

~Create boundaries from others who do not support your highest self and do not believe in you, as you need to believe in yourself.

~Be courageous and engage how it feels to be successful in whatever your perception of success is.  

~You can do this!  You are fully capable of living as the best and highest version of you possible! It’s time to take off and live successfully!

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My Voice

I am trying to understand how people of faith, of peace and higher purpose, wage wars against each other or judge others out of fear. Fear that was embedded in them by listening to other people

I am grateful to have faith, and my faith is in God and Jesus.  I understand what is says in the bible, but I trust that we are meant to accept everyone as they are, regardless of race, religion and gender identity, and I do not believe that by accepting everyone, I am going against my God.

God doesn’t judge or EVER hate, why would I?sand-heart-1314533

I know people will want to respond with their personal religions interpretations, and become defensive of their perceptions, but can we truly believe that our God, or Yahweh, or Allah, or whatever you call your source, is not simply a being that is LOVE, ACCEPTANCE AND ALL THINGS GOOD.the-call-2-1560877

Maybe,  just maybe,  humans were never meant to find the one religion with the “right” interpretation.  Perhaps we aren’t here to pit our beliefs against others beliefs.

 I think it is possible that we were meant to find a way to love, accept, have compassion for and assist one another on our individual and collective soul journeys; to be the best beings possible. To evolve as a whole, not divided and against.  

After all, aren’t God and Love (not hate or judgement) synonymous.white-lotus-1552510

“ROSIE”

horse faceHer breath startled me; a big puff of air on my face.  Before I opened my eyes I felt her soft white mane brush against my cheek and saw her beautiful brown body.  

“Honey, a horse just came to me,” I said as I woke Jeff up excitedly. “A beautiful horse, she was so close, I could feel her breath against my cheek!”

My husband knew of course that a horse had not really been in our bedroom.  

“How cool” he responded supportively.   It’s not uncommon for us to have spiritual experiences like this, so he was very interested and not at all alarmed.

I couldn’t shake her presence, (nor did I want to), so I decided to meditate to call her to me.  She was still “in the room” I sensed her soft, feminine energy to the left of me, and then right in front of me.  She nuzzled her face up to mine & I looked directly into her vast brown eyes, I was instantly flooded with a sense of peace, comfort and beauty.  I asked her name but heard nothing.  I knew it didn’t matter but I had wanted to call her something.  I was charmed by her bushy white mane and tail, and her gorgeous brown coat.  (Although I was confused by the two colors, admittedly, I didn’t know much about horses.)

I went to work thinking of the report I would do with one of my favorite clients, her name ironically, was also Kimberly.  I had worked with her several times & each time I thoroughly enjoyed our conversations, not because we shared the same name, but because we shared a connection.  Often I was moved by our clients and their stories, but only with one or two had I developed a bond like the one I had with her.

During our report, in which she is supposed to explain to me the extent of her disabilities, she wanted to acknowledge that she also felt she had much in her life for which she was appreciative, so much that has brought her happiness and that helped her to not only focus on her difficulties.  She went on explaining that part of what brought her such joy, was going outside to be with her horses. God gave them to her as a Blessing, she described.

“I’m not sure if you have ever had the chance to be close enough to look into the eyes of a horse.”

“Yes, I have, just this morning!”I wanted to shout out. But the horse hadn’t physically been in my room and our work scenario wasn’t exactly an appropriate one in which to share my story. So I continued on to the next question, but my mind was racing so I asked her what breed of horse she owned.  “One is a Palomino,” she answered, and as she spoke, I curiously searched online for Palomino. There staring back at me was a horse that was both brown and white, the image of the spirit animal that had come to me that very morning!

palomino-horse

Fast forward: Two days later, when I was speaking with one of my dearest friends, Patty,  I told her about my visit from a Palomino and how the experience of it was still alive within me, the energy that the horse gave off; the calmness, the comfort, the peace & beauty.  I expressed to her my sorrow that the only thing I didn’t get was my spirit animals name.  

Patty, (one of my soul sisters), and I, often share parallel experiences, so when she told me that she had been horseback riding with her husband that very same day and added that it was a Palomino, I thought, Naturally!  

She called the stable to find out the name of the horse she rode, at that point we both knew she was meant to get the name for me – finally, I received my spirit animal’s name: Rosie…

When visited by a spirit animal, I highly encourage not only intuitively connecting to what meaning they hold for you and your life, but to also to research further.   Many times, the message may come through someone or something else.

A few links to the meaning of horse spirit animals:

http://www.spirit-animals.com/horse/

http://www.spiritanimal.info/horse-spirit-animal/

http://www.buildingbeautifulsouls.com/spirit-animal-totem-animal-power-animals/mammals/horse-symbolism-meaning/

 

The New Normal

“The new normal”, I love that expression, it reassures me, it means I’m adjusting to change and somehow phrasing it that way makes it less intimidating. Change is inevitable, we know this. We change every day, our hair grows, our hair falls it, our nails grow & our nails break, the weather changes-every day, our money changes, our health changes, our trees change, and so on; being flexible is imperative. Many times our new normal is not by choice, is not something we want, like the fact that our children’s new normal is the potential for gun violence in places where they should feel safe, like school or when going to a movie. Someone’s new normal might mean living with a chronic illness, or in constant pain. Adjusting ourselves to these changes, means  accepting them. Accepting ourselves each day is powerful!  Accepting our bodies even though we’re in pain, accepting ourselves even with illness, accepting our thoughts even when they’re not pleasant, accepting that we must go to those places like school, the movies, or the mall, even though there may be danger. What I mean by accepting is loving, protecting and saying ok this is how it is and I will not turn against myself, or give in to fear. I will not be angry with my body because of this pain, or this extra weight, I will not hate going out in public because of the potential danger. If we turn against ourselves, then the pain, illness, the extra weight or the fear has won.

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I understand we feel angry, we feel frustrated, we want things to be different and I believe loving and accepting, temporarily, will make that difference. Temporarily, because remember, we are in a constant state of change. You may not like something at this moment about your body, your family, your house or even your life, but if you send an angry message or hate towards that part of yourself, that person, that dis-ease, you give it more power to thrive in a space of negativity.  

Try to accept what is, to fill it with a more positive, loving energy and from there you can change it and create a more blessed, peaceful and loving environment, and then make that your new normal.

Namaste          looking off at sunset

 

WALK IN BEAUTY

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Anxiously awaiting test results and further instructions; when your doctor calls and says they need to see you face-to-face to give you results, it’s natural to become concerned.  I have a heads-up of what’s going on, but I may be in for a little ride as the cause and severity is determined.  

Yesterday morning, after a slightly restless sleep, I woke up early, as usual, and as I prepared to go for more blood work, I decided to draw a card from my husband’s “Native Spirit Oracle Cards”. I recently gave him this deck as a gift because I knew they would “speak” to him.  These gorgeously photographed cards, with their powerful messages by Denise Linn and her Native American lineage is something he connects personally with.

The card that came to me was “Walking in Beauty”,  the message from her guidebook was about the beauty that surrounds us, inside and out.  Seeing the beauty and being grateful for it.  Being in balance with a natural way of life. The more we sense, see and feel the beauty around us, the more beauty will come to us.  This is the law of attraction that many of us already believe in. What I saw on this card was a sunrise, the dawning of a new day, an expansive horizon before me that created a feeling of hope and possibilities.

Upon arriving home, hungry (from fasting), thirsty and still somewhat anxious, I found a note from my husband on the counter.  A brief three sentences overflowing with his love and support.  I read the first two and was stopped in my tracks at the last, “Walk in Beauty”! Now, this is a phrase he may use if we are either working together or with another person holistically, but it is not a phrase he has written on any other note or card he has given me before. I quickly grabbed the card out of the deck to double check and he had in fact written the EXACT same thing on his note as I read hours earlier on my card!

Beautiful synchronicity and affirmation of how connected we are.  All of us, not just he and I.  We draw the people, events and messages we need into our lives, when we need them, sometimes good and sometimes more challenging.   

As I think about living or walking in beauty, I like to think I do both of those, but this message has come to me and I will honor that. I will deepen my awareness of the beauty around me, within me and within others that I’m sharing this journey with. May we all see it and feel it. The more we radiate love, healing and peace, not only do we benefit by filling our own bodies & souls, but we connect on higher levels with others & our world will become a more joyous place in which to thrive.

I will continue to pray, and fill my heart with love, joy & peace as my journey goes on and

I Walk in Beauty
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